Christmas with your partner's Puerto Rican family

Puerto Rico has one of the longest Christmas seasons in the world, and some of the loudest. Here's what to expect, what you'll eat, and what to say.

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The longest Christmas

For many Puerto Rican families, the season starts right after Thanksgiving and doesn't really end until mid-January. Here are the big dates:

Parrandas: the musical surprise visit

A parranda (also called an asalto) is a group of friends and family who show up at someone's door, usually late at night, with a cuatro guitar, a güiro, maracas, and whatever else makes noise. They sing aguinaldos (Christmas songs) until the door opens. The hosts bring out food and drinks, often join the group, and everyone moves on to the next house. It can go until sunrise.

If you're pulled into one: grab a shaker, sing the chorus as best you can, and eat what you're offered. Nobody cares if you know the words. Everyone cares that you came.

The food

DishWhat it is
pernilSlow-roasted pork shoulder. The crispy skin, el cuerito, is the prize.
arroz con gandulesRice with pigeon peas, the Christmas rice. The crispy layer at the bottom of the pot is el pegao, and people fight over it.
pastelesLike tamales, but the dough is grated green banana and root vegetables, wrapped in plantain leaves and boiled. Unwrap it first: don't eat the leaf.
morcillaBlood sausage, often served as an appetizer.
temblequeA wobbly coconut pudding dusted with cinnamon.
arroz con dulceSweet coconut rice pudding with ginger and cinnamon.
coquitoCoconut eggnog with rum. Every family says theirs is the best, and you should agree.
¡Qué rico el pernil!The pernil is delicious!
¡Me encanta el pegao!I love the crispy rice!Saying this marks you as someone who gets it.
¿Me enseña a hacer coquito?Will you teach me to make coquito?Asking for the family recipe is a big compliment.

Etiquette that makes a great impression

Phrases for the season

¡Feliz Navidad!Merry Christmas!
¡Bendición!Bless me!A greeting to elders. They answer: Dios te bendiga.
¡Buen provecho!Enjoy your meal!Say it to people who are eating when you arrive or leave the table.
¡Wepa!Woohoo!The Puerto Rican cheer for anything good: a dance move, a goal, a great pernil.
Gracias por invitarme a la parranda.Thank you for inviting me to the parranda.
¡Salud!Cheers!

New Year's and Three Kings Day

At midnight on New Year's Eve you may see people eat twelve grapes for twelve wishes, and throw a bucket of water out of the window or door to wash away the bad luck of the old year. On January 5, help the kids cut grass for the Kings' camels. It's one of the sweetest traditions of the season.

¡Feliz Año Nuevo!Happy New Year!
¡Feliz Día de Reyes!Happy Three Kings Day!
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Questions

What is a parranda in Puerto Rico?

A musical surprise visit: friends arrive at someone's home late at night with instruments, singing Christmas songs until they're let in. The hosts serve food and drinks, then often join the group for the next house.

When do Puerto Ricans open Christmas presents?

Many families open presents from Santa on December 25, and children get gifts from the Three Kings on January 6, Día de Reyes.

What is coquito?

A Puerto Rican coconut eggnog made with coconut milk, condensed milk, spices, and rum. It's served cold in small glasses all season.

What does Bendición mean?

It's how many Puerto Ricans greet parents and grandparents, asking for their blessing. The answer is Dios te bendiga, God bless you.

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